There are winners and then there are losers
Well, actually no. All that is, is made up by the human society. This view actually quite sucks as it stands in the way of our inner power. With a scale that does not even exist more than in all our heads.
In a project I am conducting at the moment about self development and the key to finding ”home”, I have read a lot of books and followed loads of coaches that work in the area of personal development. A lot of the stuff I have read has a key message. Become better, strive more, never settle, always keep going. Onwards and upwards. Both from an individualistic point of view but also from the perspective of doing good. The bad side of it all is that we never arrive. Never ever can we just lay back and tell ourselves, that life as it is here and now is actually quite awesome and that we will probably just hang out here and now. Always striving, never settling. “For what?” is the single question that comes to my mind.
I now have a book in my hand named ””The subtle art of not giving a fuck” written by Mark Manson. Please note that I have not yet started to read the actual book, only the first page. So most likely I will come back with a full review. But already the first page made me want to write this post as it quite captures what I fundamentally see as a challenge with today’s society and our constant striving for a more content life. The writer says: ”Not everybody can be extraordinary – there are winners and losers in society and some of it is not fair or your fault.” Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. This, is the real source of empowerment.”
Compared to most of the content I have been reading across the board on personal development, I think this is kind of getting closer to what I believe. But with a huge difference. We believe that there is such a thing to live as a winner and a loser. We believe that some have limitations and others not. We take that plus and minus graph as a given when in fact, it is just made up. When will we truly understand that the belief system of successful hierarchy is a man-made one that benefits no one? The ones that are supposedly the ”winners” are actually molding their entire lives to fit into a box that is way too strict to fit our individual extreme complexities. And then we have the ”losers” according to the same view that never managed to get to the point at which today’s society stamps you as a winner. So, a huge amount of people walk around feeling like garbage or robots for either living up to or not living up to something that is highly made up. How can we not see this? Is it just me? I mean, the amount of coincidences and individual happenings that needed to take place for you to even exist makes it a mere miracle that you are here today. To even question your uniqueness is for me to not value life.
So. Never mind the made-up groups of winners and losers. You exist and that is all that there is to it. You are the way you are, also that is all that there is to it. I am not being hippie in any way here. I am just avoiding putting human-made values on to real life.
QUESTIONS FOR YOU:
What do you believe will help you truly experience this life of yours in the best way for you?
Where does your view of “winners” and “losers” come from? Family? Society in general? Friends?
Do you see how that scale is made up or will you need to process it to get there?
Remember, you are alive. And that is all. Now let’s make that experience as you want it to be and ignore primitive scales made up by humans :)