Why do we end up in the wrong place?
This is a tricky question to a common phenomenon. By wrong I mean, the ones of us that have always had a clear image of what we want to do, what we would be happy with, but have still chosen a different path. Or the ones that have never really stopped to reflect on the path we are on but hacve just lived the life that was expected of us. A more secure path, a path that is aligned with our perceptions of what it is we are supposed to do. We arrive, and then realise we are actually not at all happy.
When I told people I was going to quit my job, they would think I had gone mad.
I honestly thought people would think I was having some form of life crisis. That I was throwing a great career and future down the drain. But man was I wrong. What happened was that a lot of people in my surrounding; close friends, neighbors, my super career oriented manager and LOADS of colleagues started to tell me all that they have ever dreamed of but never would dare to do. It was both very beautiful to hear, but also so very sad that so many people, beyond what I could ever have imagined, went around with an alternative way of living in mind that they genuinely thought would make them happier but that they would never dare to pursue.
What is so strong that it stands in the way of pursuing the life we actually want to live?
This is so complex. It is a whole lot to do with the day and age we live in, norms, family, expectations from close social surrounding, inner self confidence. The list goes on and on and on, and to make it even more complicated, the list looks enormously different from person to person. But tell me one thing, how often are we encouraged to listen inwards, and trust our inner gut feeling? Rather than fitting in to a mold that is the “right” one of today and our social context. We seldomly do. And hence, we tend to just follow the flow of the world instead of our own flow. Goals are set according to this flow, all steps are taken according to the flow. And what happens then? Well, chances are that you will end up in places you would not choose for yourself. And that you will be living someone elses dreams.
Normal is NOT necessarily good
And again, this is very common. So many of us live lives we feel that we constantly want to escape from, with vacation, if we were to win a billion dollars, etc. And we seem to think that since it is so common, well, it is maybe just the way life is supposed to be? Nope, it isn’t, we always have a chance to choose something else. As history has time and time again shown us, “normal” is not always a good thing. Dare to take the steps you feel are the right ones for you in order to come closer to your desired life.
QUESTION TIME
What contexts are you a part of that have affected you in your life?
How often do you try to go past the outer expectations and encounter your inner true desires? If not, today might be the day!!